At Black Hills Financial Planning, we believe that financial well-being is more than just budgets, spreadsheets, and retirement accounts—it’s also deeply personal and emotional. For many people, financial habits are not simply a product of income and expenses, but rather the result of long-held beliefs, emotional wounds, and subconscious behaviors.
If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m just not good with money,” or silently judged others with the thought, “Rich people are all greedy or rude,”—you’re not alone. These kinds of internal narratives are surprisingly common. Moreover, they can quietly sabotage your financial growth, limit your learning ability, and even prevent you from seeking help.
Let’s look deeper at how unresolved emotions and psychological patterns shape your financial life—and what you can do about it.
The Emotional Roots of Financial Behavior
Money is rarely just about dollars and cents. For many, it’s tied to identity, security, self-worth, and even morality. Often, the way we behave with money is influenced by:
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Childhood experiences (e.g., growing up in scarcity or watching parents fight over money)
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Cultural or familial beliefs (e.g., “We’re not the kind of people who have money”)
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Traumatic financial events (e.g., job loss, bankruptcy, divorce)
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Societal narratives (e.g., associating wealth with selfishness or corruption)
These emotional and psychological roots may seem invisible at first, but they affect your behaviors in very real ways—whether it’s chronic overspending, fear of investing, avoidance of budgeting, or distrust of financial professionals.
Common Limiting Beliefs—and Their Impact
Let’s examine a few examples of beliefs that often hold people back:
1. “I’m not good with money.”
This belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t believe you’re capable of managing finances, you may avoid learning how. You might procrastinate paying bills, ignore your savings, or never start investing—because deep down, you’ve accepted a false identity around money incompetence.
What to do: Start with small wins. Celebrate each step—whether it’s tracking expenses for a week or opening a savings account. Skills are built through practice, not perfection.
2. “Rich people are rude, greedy, or unethical.”
Beliefs like this can create a psychological wall between you and financial success. If wealth is associated with negative traits, then subconsciously, you may resist earning more, asking for a raise, or pursuing financial growth—for fear of becoming what you dislike.
What to do: Redefine what wealth means to you. There are generous, kind-hearted wealthy people just as there are in every income bracket. What if becoming financially secure meant you could give more, rest more, or support your family more?
3. “I don’t deserve to be financially successful.”
Feelings of unworthiness can show up in subtle ways—like undercharging for services, not negotiating salaries, or spending impulsively out of guilt. These patterns often stem from past emotional wounds or shame.
What to do: Work on cultivating self-compassion. Recognize that financial health is a right, not a reward. Everyone deserves access to the knowledge and tools that support their well-being.
Healing is Part of Financial Growth
We often say that financial planning is not just about making smart decisions—it’s also about creating space to confront your beliefs, fears, and assumptions about money.
This is why we approach financial planning with empathy and respect. We’re here to support your goals and create a nonjudgmental environment where you can be honest about what’s held you back. Whether you’re rebuilding after a setback, starting from scratch, or simply trying to break through an invisible ceiling, your emotional well-being matters.
Practical Tips for Moving Forward
If this resonates with you, here are a few simple steps to begin shifting your mindset:
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Journaling: Write down the financial beliefs you grew up with. Ask yourself: Are these still serving me?
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Mindful language: Catch yourself when you say things like “I’m terrible with money” and reframe with “I’m learning how to manage money.”
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Seek support: Consider working with a financial planner who understands the emotional side of money—and provides judgment-free guidance.
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Educate yourself: Knowledge empowers. The more you learn, the more confident you’ll feel, and the less emotional baggage you’ll carry.
You Deserve Financial Peace—Inside and Out
Addressing the emotional and psychological side of money is not always easy, but it is one of the most important steps you can take toward lasting financial health. When you begin to challenge limiting beliefs, process old experiences, and approach money with curiosity instead of fear, your whole relationship with wealth begins to shift.
At Black Hills Financial Planning, we’re honored to walk alongside you—not just as planners, but as partners in your financial journey. If you’re ready to move forward with intention and support, you can book a free introductory call with us here.
Your future is worth investing in—emotionally, mentally, and financially.
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Sincerely,
The Black Hills Financial Planning Team
